When I was younger, I believed that a romantic relationship will cure all my insecurities. Then I was surprised when my insecurities were still present after starting a relationship. My fear of being single, alone and lonely became the fear of losing my partner. When my partner and I had an opportunity to experience international travel together, we went to a different environment – the new context inspired new conversations – I told my partner that my insecurities followed me into this relationship. Interestingly, my vulnerabilities made our relationship stronger because being honest and vulnerable strengthened the emotional connection.
- We live in a universe which is so abundant in pure love.
When we believe that we are in a universe that is abundant in love, we discover love everywhere. By contrast, a scarcity mindset leads to the opposite direction. I think that’s Law of Attraction.
Now I believe that love is all around me all the time. Therefore, I can access love at any time.
In contrast, if I condense all the love in my life to my partner (my only access point to love), this relationship will possibly collapse under a heavy weight that it can’t bear. Now I know that my relationship isn’t programmed to bear the entirety of all the love that I should feel from this world.
My partner and I went to Europe together. We visited many countries and experienced a wide variety of cultures. Love does exist everywhere – both romantic love and other types of love. What we’ve noticed is people in the United Kingdom are more introverted, whereas people from Spain, Italy and France express their love more freely. Indeed, international travel has expanded our outlook in fascinating ways. We really appreciate the opportunity to see this world while having a great time.
- Being on the inside of the moment:
The best way to feel other sources of love is to live on the inside of the moment, i.e., being fully present at all times. For example, when I’m spending time with my parents, instead of looking at my smartphone and half-listening, I choose to be completely present and fully engaged with them. In this way, every moment is a chance for me to experience real love.
My mentor told me that everyone’s biggest fear is to be fully seen & not loved. That’s right. If I don’t totally reveal myself to somebody, then if that person doesn’t love me, I can simply think, “That’s ok because they do not know me that well.” However, if that person rejects me after seeing me fully, it’s so much more difficult to deal with. That also means in dating and relationships, the best feeling you can make your partner experience is for your partner to be seen and loved at the same time. But if you only reveal the PR version of who you are to your partner, the connection isn’t deep. Why not be authentic?
I hope you enjoyed my international travel journal entry today.
“When you have a big heart, you experience big love everywhere you go.”
