Hopefully you will learn a thing or two from this blog post about what I’ve learned through traveling to Eastern Europe and living in Ukraine.
It’s okay to be who I really am.
It’s perfectly okay to be happy, wonderful and brave, no matter what. I haven’t had a real relationship for many, many years and lots of people judge me because of that. They look at me and think, “What’s wrong with this person? Being single can be better than being married?!” This has happened for many times when I was living in the western culture.
Truthfully, even though I had relationships in the past, I don’t think those relationships are actually real. Yes, of course, to some extent, those relationships are definitely real, but I didn’t feel any strong connection to those people previously.
We tend to underestimate the power of luck. Yes, intelligence and hard work are very important, but luck is equally important. I don’t think I have any serious problems, but so far in my life I obviously haven’t had the luck to meet the right person who can actually become my partner. Yes, I had a spouse before, but a spouse isn’t necessarily a partner. It seems that traveling to Ukraine allows me to meet new people who can understand how I feel and what I’m talking about. I’m very grateful to my new friends in Eastern Europe.
It’s absolutely okay to live a life that makes total sense to me. I am allowed to be me. There is nothing wrong with laughing out loud like a child in a busy street. There is nothing wrong with choosing not to have a corporate job which requires me to sit in an office for 38 hours per week. There is nothing wrong with choosing not to explain myself to those who have judged me – they don’t need to know my full story. Yes, I feel like a single person all my life, and that’s okay – It only means I have high standards, and there is nothing wrong with that. I don’t want to compromise my standards. Unlike many people who are afraid of being single, I don’t fear being single at all. There is nothing wrong with dressing up like a princess, even though I’m not a child anymore. It’s none of others’ business.
As a single child in my family, I know that in the near future my parents will rely on me completely. Right now, I’m ready for that – even with family commitments, it’s okay to make self-loving, positive choices for myself. My happiness is the best gift for my family because my parents definitely want me to be happy. In fact, everybody in a family benefits from the happiness in others because the happiness can be shared further. Genuine relationships understand and support this idea.
After living in Ukraine for a while, this is my realization: I am absolutely free to choose the way I want to live my life. I am allowed to honor my heart’s decisions. I am free to be me.
Gratitude makes my life easier.
Gratitude is the key to a locked door. My trip in Ukraine has taught me many things and I cherish the learning: Everyone has bad days and everyone also has good days. Both will pass and both will come repeatedly. Life is simply a balance of dark and light. Happiness comes from accepting that both dark and light are a natural part of our lives. Acceptance gives me a balanced perspective so that I can enjoy the good days and learn from the difficult days. During challenging days, this is what I do in order to feel better instantly:
First, I have a screen-free day: I literally ban myself from the laptop and smart phone for 24 hours. I don’t even turn them on. I think I should do this once a week or even twice a week! In this way, I can have more time to read good books, listen to my favorite music and go out for a walk.
Second, I wear a yellow outfit. In my opinion, this brighter color gives me a lighter heart. It makes me look and feel good immediately. Change is totally necessary to alter my current state, including my appearance. It’s simple and achievable right now.
“Life in Ukraine opens your eyes to brand-new perspectives and opens your heart to new dreams and strengths.”