“My girlfriend and I broke up. Her behavior had become very different and I don’t think she was even trying. After the breakup, she told me that she had been looking forward to a breakup for some time and she was unwilling to tell me. She has moved on too quickly now and I’m in pain,” says Mark, “How can I heal?”
An international trip helps you heal unexpectedly.
“I understand that it’s painful and difficult to know that she was living in one reality and you were living in another reality,” I say to Mark, “She moved on quickly because she had done the work that you are currently doing. She was processing the idea of breaking up with you for quite a while. Therefore, when you told her it was time to end the relationship, she was mentally further into the split already.”
In truth, Mark isn’t alone. I’ve received similar questions from other men as well. If you have been in a similar situation, perhaps you can try implementing my advice as well.
The first step is to have an international trip because physiology leads psychology. Please let me explain.
When you go to another country, you are changing your physiology and your environment. And when you are in a different environment, it’s an opportunity for you to evolve – you can become a better version of yourself. Better still, while experiencing a different culture, you see different perspectives. As a result, your mindset can improve, too.
Interestingly, you might think confidence is knowing it all. However, in fact, confidence is being completely comfortable with not knowing it all. I don’t think confidence is about making ourselves totally bulletproof. Actually, confidence comes from a much deeper source: a big heart, big love, compassion, kindness, generosity and curiosity.
What is the art of life?
From my view, the art of life isn’t making everything go perfectly according to my plans. As a matter of fact, the art of life is making magic out of the way life truly is. Indeed, life is unexpected always, so when I find myself on a path that I never thought I would encounter, I simply have to roll with it! Don’t spend too much time waiting for everything to be easier. Magic can be created where I am – it shouldn’t have to wait for a better time. Let it happen now.
By the way, even if you’ve found a new relationship, an international trip will also benefit your love life because a trip like that does two things: 1) it gives you shared experiences, so you can have a better emotional connection with your partner; 2) it gives you new experiences, so you can keep your relationship sparky and exciting. There are various ways excitement could be rekindled in a long-term relationship: A) Do something that your partner doesn’t expect you to do, so your partner is pleasantly surprised. B) Attend a party with your partner and your partner notices others are impressed by you. C) Let your partner see you do something that you are good at. D) Reunite after giving each other some space.
“Please feel free to enjoy healing activities that improve your wellbeing. Give yourself the permission to experience the art of life.”
