After a divorce in 2012, I had an international trip which was very healing and enlightening. Rumi famously said, “The wound is where the light enters you.” This is absolutely true.
- Love is a healing energy.
I took two years off from dating. After the divorce, I needed some time to put my nervous system through that. Therefore, instead of transferring the pain to a new relationship, I spent some time to do self-work:
- I read two books on how relationships work per month and learned a lot about what happened & what should happen in the future.
- I hired a life coach who taught me key skills such as meditation, mindfulness, effective communication and persuasion.
- I studied an online program regarding self-love – I learned how to utilize tapping to heal pretty much every issue caused by the divorce.
- I consulted with a naturopath who asked me to use herbal medicine to improve the quality of my sleep. I don’t suffer from insomnia anymore.
- I had an international trip and visited many countries in Europe where I experienced & explored different cultures, which really expanded my outlook tremendously.
- I prioritize feeling love in various ways, e.g., family, friends, hobbies, and so on. Big love. A big heart.
- Why was that international trip full of love and light?
When I went to the airport for the trip, I intentionally paid attention to what it felt like to not be screamed at each step of the trip. That totally shifted my perspective because I shouldn’t take for granted the things which are not happening any longer. (When I was married, I was yelled at and laughed at by my ex-husband frequently. At that time, while I was walking home after work, I was crying every step of the way because I didn’t want to go home and see him. Therefore, after the divorce, my life was completely different. Now I have the peace, certainty and confidence.)
After the divorce, I realized that there are so many treasures in my life: friendships, interests, career, etc. I must celebrate this fact.
“Journaling is very helpful. I made a list of all the things that I wanted to do when I was with my ex but did not get to do due to his criticism, and then I actually did all of those things after ending that relationship: singing, dancing, writing and learning a foreign language. Now my life has become unrecognizable in a good way.”
