After living in Ukraine for a while, this is my realization: I am absolutely free to choose the way I want to live my life. I am allowed to honor my heart’s decisions. I am free to be me.


  • Gratitude makes my life easier.


Gratitude is the key to a locked door. My trip in Ukraine has taught me many things and I cherish the learning: Everyone has bad days and everyone also has good days. Both will pass and both will come repeatedly.

Life is simply a balance of dark and light. Happiness comes from accepting that both dark and light are a natural part of our lives.

Acceptance gives me a balanced perspective so that I can enjoy the good days and learn from the difficult days.

During challenging days, this is what I do in order to feel better instantly:

First, I have a screen-free day: I literally ban myself from the laptop and smart phone for 24 hours. I don’t even turn them on. I think I should do this once a week or even twice a week! In this way, I can have more time to read good books, listen to my favorite music and go out for a walk.

Second, I wear a yellow outfit. In my opinion, this brighter color gives me a lighter heart. It makes me look and feel good immediately. Change is totally necessary to alter my current state, including my appearance. It’s simple and achievable right now.


  • Stop worrying and start living.


This trip to Ukraine has also taught me that the life I choose to experience is up to me. My words, thoughts and actions are creating my future right now. I’m literally creating my own life. I’ve decided to make loving, conscious choices in my life from now on.

Of course, life will stretch me and challenge me. There will be many tests waiting for me in the future. Meanwhile, life also rewards me in tremendous ways. I can live the life my heart wants. It’s absolutely safe to be who I really am. I’m very grateful for the opportunity to choose my own lifestyle and the freedom of choice in life.

Unlike so many westerners who are obsessed over material possessions, most men and women in Ukraine understand that there are seasons in life, with time for growth and time for rest. That’s absolutely normal.

I should allow myself to be joyous because life is short (the average person only has about 30,000 days on this planet) – every day is very important. Ita Buttrose even says, “Every moment is very important.” So, I should let myself laugh. I know many people who rarely laugh because they take themselves too seriously. But some of them may forget how to laugh or how to smile, which is sad. As a matter of fact, a lot of successful people are laughing out loud all the time.

In future, I will take more risks because I don’t want to wonder “what if”. I will look at myself in the mirror and say “I love you. Thank you” before going to bed every night. I will move forward with clearer certainty of who I really am, gain courage to be honest with everyone (including myself), have hope and faith when I’m challenged by life and maintain gratitude and compassion to create brand-new directions in life. I feel very grateful for each step that has led up to this point in my life and will lead on beyond. I am grateful to every individual along the way who influenced this journey. I’m grateful to Eastern Europe – without living in Ukraine for a period of time, I wouldn’t have this wisdom.


“Life in Ukraine opens your eyes to brand-new perspectives and opens your heart to new dreams and strengths. Therefore, I would like to highly recommend this lifestyle.”