I lived in Ukraine for a year. This experience has given me a different perspective, so I’ve decided to write down my thoughts on this trip today.
No matter how life treats you, shifting the perspective makes all the difference.
Matthew Hussey once said, “Everyone’s life is painful. You are not alone.” Indeed, we are only human beings, and pain is inevitable in life, but suffering is optional.
Moreover, what might appear as a storm to one individual can seem a blessing to another person. Living in Ukraine, I’ve met some new friends who have given me new perspectives in life. Seeing life through someone else’s eyes helps me view my own life from a very different perspective. This lifts the lid on my own wisdom without my even realizing it, for new answers then flow. It is all a matter of perspective, in my opinion. There are many blessings to be found through almost every situation. Sometimes they are hidden from normal view and need a completely new perspective to be found.
Things are not always as they appear to be. Actually, they are usually much, much better than what they seem to be. Please let me explain.
After a marriage breakdown, I was devastated; therefore, I moved to Eastern Europe and began to study psychology, human dynamics, meditation, herbal medicine, personal development, art, literature and music. I was trying my best to alleviate the pain caused by the divorce.
One year later, now I’m a changed person. I’ve met the world’s leading relationship coach who has decided to hire me to join her team. Now I have got a new career – I can teach clients and give advice on dating and relationships because of what I’ve learned in my journey.
In other words, without that relationship breakdown, I wouldn’t become who I am today. I don’t want to change my past at all.
But when the divorce happened, the pain was real. Yet today when I look back, I have realized that it was a blessing in disguise. I am the luckiest person in the world.
The power of accepting change:
No matter it’s an official seasonal change or not, there are cycles and seasons within our lives. Nobody can hold on to one kind of season simply because they love it more, hoping to stop the other seasons from coming around. Whether on a seasonal, personal or global level, acceptance of change clearly allows life to flow more naturally, bringing new joys and seasons, ones you and I may never have imagined before.
As I’m typing this article now, I’ve been living in Ukraine for exactly 12 months. Like a swimming pool waiting to give happiness and joy to enthusiastic swimmers again in the warmer months, I have decided to open to the joys of change which are gently blowing my way. I also wish the same for all my friends in Ukraine around me.
This morning, I received a message regarding the death of my childhood friend. Talking about such a deep subject is facing the brutal reality. Death doesn’t have to be a terrifying topic. Of course, it can make us sad, to candidly consider that a loved one might not be visibly by your side for every day that is left in your lifetime. Yet doesn’t facing this true fact make the time remaining together much more special and meaningful?
Every successful person that I know values their time most. Reminding yourself of your mortality only gives you wisdom – realizing that there was so much you intended to do, yet now time can run out. Therefore, get on with it now. You must make the most of living. Bravely face your unavoidable death. You are probably not going to be the first immortal person on this planet. Just be grateful for your life and your ability to make choices in your own life.
Everyone’s life is worth celebrating. Until your time to depart arrives, I wish honest, fear-free living to you. Embrace your own life. Be happy. Be courageous.
I received a letter from a friend in Eastern Europe: “Who you will become is who your heart has always hoped you can become. It only takes patience, time, love and openness. You are on your way. It is by far the best surprise you could ever hope for. Congrats.”
“Traveling to Eastern Europe means daring to step out of self-imposed conformity – this brings rewards and pleasure.”