As I’m writing this blog post right now, I’m enjoying an international holiday on an exotic island. I’d like to talk about my journey regarding shifting my identity several times in my life. 😊
- A 20-year-old person’s identity:
When I was in my 20s, I worked really hard and I was cool & very sociable. I said yes to every opportunity and took a range of risks.
I learned important skills at university, met people who changed my life forever and had mentors who taught me priceless knowledge. I had fantastic friends from different industries because I was good at networking – my social skills were practiced again and again. 😉
Because I said yes to every opportunity, I moved cities and countries for work and for love. Certain opportunities turned out to be major risks. But each risk made me a stronger and wiser person.
There is no regret. I got married in my mid 20s and then ended that marriage before I turned 30 years old. However, that experience made me who I am today: I learned so much from that marriage as well as everything that is relevant to the entire experience. I became a ghost-writer for relationship advisors and dating coaches because experts love my insights into dating and relationships. Apparently, my first-hand experience gave me a lot to think about.
- While getting older….
I’m currently having an international holiday in order to celebrate my 40th birthday with my family and friends. I worked extremely hard in my 30s as well, but now I’m considering changing this area of my life because a new identity will be better when I’m older. Please let me explain.
Now I should be more selective – I don’t say yes to everything anymore. I’ve started to think about working less hard because my priorities in life have gradually changed. Since my responsibilities in life are different now, I am supposed to take less risks as well. At this stage, I must begin to take care of my health more. Meanwhile, I need to spend more time building high-quality relationships with people in my life.
There are some people who aren’t good at shifting identities. Yes, I’ve seen men in their 50s and 60s trying to pick up women in clubs. I’ve met retired people who don’t know how to enjoy life and have fun. I also know a wealthy individual who only wears low-quality clothes from Kmart and second-hand shops as she is unable to shake the habit. These are actually quite common.
Personally, I simply put the same energy into the brand-new identity as the old. Nowadays, I learn a lot about how to be happy and healthy very carefully (with as much focus as I learned investing and business).
This international holiday is all about health and happiness.
“As we go through life, to be as successful as possible we should shift our identity a couple of times.”
