Most individuals that I spend time with don’t know much about my love life. Nevertheless, now I’ve decided to share my love life and my journey with you on this website about world travel.
- The love life:
I started my first relationship when I was 16 years old. At that time, I was looking for ‘the right pilot’. If you know Darren Hayes’s song To the Moon and Back, you would understand what I am talking about. I was simply looking for someone that could give me love and fill the void in my life at that time.
Because my parents’ marriage had some issues when they were in their 30s and early 40s, I felt anxious at home. The only way to feel better was to spend quality time with my boyfriend outside the home.
That relationship lasted for four years until he passed away in 2004. At that time, we were engaged. But sadly, our wedding became his funeral.
Then I started another relationship with a very artistic person. Being with this guy was a very healing experience. Psychology could only eliminate the symptoms of mental health issues, whereas art could get rid of the root cause. Because of his art, I recovered from the previous pain and began to enjoy life again.
Two years later, the artist and I were engaged. However, unfortunately, we fundamentally had different value systems and we grew apart, so our wedding was cancelled. Having said that, I still think that relationship was very valuable and meaningful. We had a good time from 2006 to 2008.
In 2009, I met Danny and we got married within 3 months. Because the wedding happened too quickly, we didn’t know that we were not really compatible in so many ways. He wanted to spend his time watching TV, whilst I wanted to spend my time traveling the world. The way we spent our time was too different; consequently, that marriage lasted for five years. It wasn’t really a short marriage, but it ended when I was about 31 years old.
Danny wanted to be my friend after our divorce, but I decided to be an acquaintance only. I think I’ve made the right decision.
Anyway, that marriage wasn’t a failure because it changed my life in various ways. Danny taught me many things that I didn’t know in the past. We added tremendous value to each other’s lives. Now when I look back, I still think Danny is a great person and that marriage was very successful.
In 2016 I began to date a very masculine guy who treated me like a princess. This relationship lasted for almost three years. We don’t really have the same blueprint, even though we were almost engaged. When he asked me to marry him, I said, “Please let me think about it for at least one week.”
Well, in the end, I told him that I couldn’t marry him because we don’t have a shared vision. He wanted to live in South America, but I don’t have any plans to move to South America. Therefore, we broke up in a friendly manner.
If I wear 4 engagement rings at the same time, would that look outrageous?
- The journey:
Most people in my life don’t know that I was engaged for almost four times. I don’t really want to tell them anything in this regard.
I still believe in love. I still think that every relationship that I have had is very meaningful and rewarding. Every guy that I’ve been with taught me highly valuable things and made my life more enlightening. I’m forever grateful to each of them.
In western countries, it is said that before finding the one, a person would need to have about 6 or 7 relationships. Perhaps that means being engaged for almost 4 times isn’t something shocking, okay?
“My favorite book is Eat, Pray, Love written by Elizabeth Gilbert. If she can find enlightenment and love in her journey, I can do it, too!”